— Insights of Over 30-something mom

After all those heartaches, confrontations, boring conversations and all those losers, you would think that a woman can become so jaded and opt to stay single the rest of her life. But no, women are bound to overcome their reluctance and go out in the dating world and get bloody.

So how do we get bloody? Experts say, and I don’t know personally who these people are, to find mates in singles bars and single groups. And I couldn’t even name the leading singles bar here in and around the metro. And to hang out in one is something I haven’t thought of doing. I would rather crash my cart into a man’s cart hoping that he’ll notice me. Which is also pathetic but more realistic than waiting and wasting my time in a single’s bar. Single moms are known to multi-task. I can do my grocery shopping while looking out for single men.

After you’ve made the move, what’s next? Initiate contact, of course. How does one do that? By having an opening line. But I can’t think of an opening line and I don’t know anyone who has one or any person who uses one. ‘Hi, I’m a horny mom, what’s your name?’ or ‘Hi, I’m desperate. Will you talk to me?’ In fact, experts say any line will do. And these same experts say that the trick is to say it to enough people and some will eventually respond.

Finally, having initiated contact, have a decent conversation. Well, even a superficial conversation might do the job. I mean, after all the stupidity and embarrassment you’ve put yourself into, the guy might pity you and you might end up having coffee with the guy or you might end up with Friday night date. What is there to lose?